Raising resilient and responsible adults

Raising resilient and responsible adults

Comments 0 Comment

Young children often enjoy answering questions about their age. My son Christo never responded with his current age. Instead, he would say, “I am busy turning 6 or 7.” My boys have always been eager to take charge of their lives. Now that my eldest two have reached the age where they can care for themselves, they reflect on how carefree childhood was. This reflection tells me that they are now confronting the responsibilities and challenges of adulthood.

As a mother, I now watch from a distance as each of my children navigates adulthood. Zander, now “busy turning 17,” once observed my worries during his older siblings’ teenage years. When he was just seven years old, he offered me his childlike wisdom: “Mom, teenagers are like cats—they always come home to eat,” and “Mom, if you are worried, it helps to keep yourself busy.”

Now, Zander is that teenager. His bedroom door is closed and his schedule is packed, but at least he still comes home to eat. Our time with him and our opportunities to prepare him for adulthood are slipping away. I try to apply the lessons I learned from parenting my older two, striving to support him intentionally while giving him the space he needs to grow and discover life on his own.

How should we prepare our children, and for what purpose?

As parents, we must equip our children with the skills, mindset, and values to navigate an ever-changing world with confidence and resilience. Reflecting on the fact that we are constantly setting an example in these areas reminds me of the profound responsibility that comes with parenthood.

Relationship with God, Self, and Others

It is important to me that my children develop a personal relationship with God. I am acutely aware of how unique each child’s faith journey is. My role has been to plant the seeds of faith, nurture their curiosity, and trust that God will strengthen their relationship with Him in His perfect timing. As a family, we often recognise and share moments of God’s presence in nature and through life’s small blessings. I cherish every photo they send me of Creation’s beauty, reminding us of His handiwork.

Our children need to take the time to understand themselves and learn how to identify, manage, and healthily express their emotions. At the same time, we all must practice listening with empathy, respecting different perspectives, and trying to understand others. Our children closely observe our actions and behaviours while navigating their relationships.

Open conversations with them are essential, but finding the right moments can be challenging, especially during the teenage years. When we lived in South Africa, I drove my boys to school, which gave us valuable time to talk. Zander takes the train to school, so I must find new ways to connect with him. We eat together, and I often invite him for gelato by the lake to spend quality time together.

Critical Thinking, Problem-Solving, and Life Skills

As parents, we play a crucial role in teaching our children problem-solving skills. However, they can only truly learn and build confidence by facing challenges.

I used to jump in immediately to help my children through their struggles, eager to solve their problems alongside them. But when we moved to Switzerland, I believe my Creator intentionally placed me on the other side of the world so I could learn to step back. I had to practice listening from a distance and offering advice only when they asked.

It’s also important not to be limited by traditional gender roles. Before I started working, my dad taught me how to change a car tyre. I had to practice it until he was confident, I could handle it. Similarly, my boys have been baking cookies and preparing meals together since they were little. One of them has even turned his passion for baking into a business.

Financial responsibility was another key lesson I wanted to instil in my children. During their student years, we created a budget together at the beginning of each year. Whenever unexpected expenses arose, we would discuss how to address them as a team. They had to find ways to earn money to keep their finances afloat. I watched them learn to manage their finances, make thoughtful adjustments, and support each other as friends when necessary.

Adaptability in an Ever-Changing World

We must equip our children with the skills to navigate an unpredictable world and face life’s challenges. No one knows what the future holds, and difficulties often arise unexpectedly. Our goal is to teach them to be flexible and to adapt without breaking.

To achieve this, we should help them view failures as learning opportunities and emphasise their effort, perseverance, and problem-solving skills rather than just their successes. By leading by example, we can approach challenges with curiosity rather than fear.

Since children learn best through experience, we must provide opportunities that push them beyond their comfort zones. For instance, I was terrified when Zander, at 15, wanted to spend six weeks in Australia on an exchange program. However, I had to learn that letting go is part of parenting. The personal growth we witnessed in him was incredible.

The way we perceive and discuss change influences our children. If we embrace change as a natural part of life, they will learn to do the same, realising that change can lead to growth and new opportunities for both them and us.

I am learning from my children now

As our children mature into adulthood, our relationship transforms into one of mutual learning and inspiration. We no longer guide them; they teach us as well. I am grateful for this shift because, as we age, it becomes increasingly challenging to keep up with the rapid pace of change in the world.

We continue to learn from each other’s perspectives and support one another through challenges. They inspire me in unexpected and different ways.

Regards, 

Emsia

Acts of kindness brighten lives

Acts of kindness brighten lives

Comments 0 Comment

Nothing is ever truly certain. Despite this, I can usually greet each new day with joy. However, sometimes, the uncertainty of personal or global circumstances weighs me down. When I feel overwhelmed, I often encounter situations or receive words of encouragement from unusual places or people. I see it as messages from Above, delivered in different ways. They bring light to my life.

Words that brought peace

One cold winter morning, I sat on the train, lost in my troublesome thoughts, when my eye caught graffiti on a construction site. The words, written in German, made me pause. Slowly, I read them, trying to understand, “Ich leg Mein Leben nur in Gottes Hand.” – “I put my life only in God’s hands”

It struck me that someone had written this — illegally, no less — in life-sized letters for every passing train passenger to see. I wondered who else, like me, had found comfort in those red spray-painted words.

I have discovered that reading Bible verses or passages in various languages can be surprisingly helpful. Every language conveys ideas differently, offering new perspectives and often enhancing my understanding.

Words of recognition from a stranger

Later that same day, I took the train back home. As I boarded, I noticed my German friend sitting with another friend, and they warmly invited me to join them. We had a wonderful conversation and discovered that my friend’s mother, like mine, would soon be celebrating her 80th birthday. I shared how we had put together a book for my mother that contained stories and anecdotes spanning over 80 years.

Near the end of the journey, a woman around our age, whom I didn’t know, stood up to leave. Just before stepping off the train, she pressed a small white piece of paper into my hand. Confusion washed over me; I assumed she was asking for help. Carefully, I started reading the handwritten message.

The message

Dear Stranger

Sorry for eavesdropping, but I wanted to let you know that I loved your idea to ask friends and family to share stories about your mom and turn it into a book. You inspired me! I did something similar, showing my mom how rich her life (90 years) was by collecting photos of the last 50 years (my age) and turned them into a book called “Happy Moments.”

I managed to thank her quickly before she left the train, but I wished I had her name and number to make contact for a proper conversation. My German friend assumed I knew the woman and wondered why I had not invited her to join us. She was even more surprised when she learned the note was from a stranger. “This doesn’t happen in Switzerland!” she remarked, reflecting on how private people’s lives often are.

The woman’s note truly brightened my day. There’s a saying, “Kindness is igniting a light in someone else for no reason other than to watch them glow.” The woman was both brave and kind. I believe that her impulsive gesture not only helped others but also made her feel good. I’ve read that small acts of kindness can brighten others’ lives and increase the giver’s serotonin, which is the hormone that contributes to feelings of happiness.

Invitation to make people feel Included

A few years ago, I reconnected with my high school math teacher. We had not seen each other in many years. During a visit to Kathu, she invited my mom and me to join a group of locals at her farm to sing Christmas carols. She treated us to a delicious home-cooked meal and shared inspiring words.

Since then, she has made it a priority to visit my mom whenever she is in town. Having lost her husband a few years ago, she understands what it feels like to be alone. She often invites my mother to the farm to sing along with others and even arranges transportation for her. It is her way of spreading joy and sharing love, ensuring that others feel seen and included.

Give help where it will make a difference

These days, technology allows many people to invest and trade online. Given the world’s unpredictable state, the markets can be volatile. Sometimes, investors win, and other times, they lose. My eldest son finds online trading particularly interesting and has helped me through his journey to become more informed about what is happening in the financial markets.

At one point before the American election, things were going well with his investments, and he made a good profit. Grateful for his success, he shared part of his earnings with people he believed needed it. I know he, for example, gave money to the local gas station attendant and a security guard. When I asked him about it, he explained, “Mom, I believe money should flow. I give it with love and find joy in seeing someone’s face light up with surprise.”

It is easy to brighten someone’s day

Each of us can brighten someone else’s day. We all possess unique gifts and opportunities to make a difference. Sometimes, it takes a little courage to step outside our comfort zones. The delight of watching someone’s expression shift to one of astonishment makes it all worthwhile.

It doesn’t always require grand gestures. Even a simple call, message, or visit can brighten someone’s day more than we realise. God sends messages through people and nature to brighten our days and lives.

Kind regards

Emsia

Mom’s love, laughter and life lessons

Mom’s love, laughter and life lessons

Comments 0 Comment

This year, our mother, Lenie, is celebrating her 80th birthday. In recent years, many of our school friends have lost their parents. As children, we often visited one another’s homes, shared meals, and had sleepovers. Our families became deeply intertwined, and the passing of these parents has had a profound impact on us. At the same time, my mother has felt the loss of long-standing friendships, as fewer people visit or call regularly to check in on her.

We wanted to use her birthday to thank her for her invaluable role in our lives and remind her of her contributions and positive impact on others and the community. To accomplish this, we asked school friends and family to share anecdotes and stories that reflected her influence. Stories have power.

These stories and memories made us smile for many different reasons. They were as meaningful to my sister and me as to our mother. They also revealed several life lessons and truths I would like to share.

Over a lifetime, we evolve through many different versions of ourselves

The contributions we received came from people who knew my mother at various stages of her life. Each story reflected a version of her at a specific point in time. Over the years, we all go through many different versions of ourselves.

As children, we witness only a few versions of our parents, while they, in turn, see every version of us. Each version significantly shapes our life journey and contributes to the person we are today.

We should approach the younger versions of ourselves with reverence and respect. Those earlier selves faced challenges and celebrated triumphs that became the foundation of our growth. Through those experiences, we found strength, healed, and learned to thrive.

The timeless joys that weave like a golden thread through our lives

Friendships, gardening, music, and sewing are the joys that run like a golden thread through the anecdotes and stories about my mother. These simple pleasures transcend time and place, always available to her no matter where her future path may lead.

It reminded me once again how vital it is to invest time in the things that bring us joy. One day, the future versions of ourselves will look back with gratitude for the happiness we cultivated along the way.

The impact we have on others

My mother had a way of making our friends feel welcome in our home. She took a genuine interest in their lives, sharing their joys and sorrows with laughter and tears. Sometimes, she even pitched in with last-minute oral presentations or unfinished knitting projects. Her love of baking was legendary—her tarts, koeksisters, and rusks were unforgettable.

Some of our school friends shared heartfelt words about the impact of her care, compassion, and listening ear on their lives. It moved me deeply. It reminded me that people always remember how we made them feel, even if we are unaware of the lasting impression we leave. Our patience, love, and kindness form part of the legacy we leave behind.

The unique gifts we bring to the world

Each of us is born with something special—a gift that is uniquely ours. It might be a talent, a quirk, or a distinct way of seeing the world. My mother’s gift is her beautiful singing voice, which she shared in the church choir, the town revue group, and even at weddings.

A few more of her gifts became evident through the stories and memories others shared. Her gift is seeing the positive in every situation. I will always think of her radiant smile and the dimples on her cheeks. She had a way of helping everyone around her find a splash of colour in life’s grey moments. With endless patience, she listened to people’s stories and gave them the comfort of being heard.

Everyone possesses unique gifts and talents. We must use them to make the world better and brighter.

The echo of words in our lives

My mother had a few sayings that resurface in my mind during life’s moments. One that often comes to me is, “Just wait until you’re a mother yourself one day, then you’ll understand.” She usually said this while standing at my bedroom window, anxiously watching the street, waiting for my sister to come home. In my teenage wisdom, I’d advise her to stop worrying and go to sleep. Now, as a parent myself, I often hear her words echo when I find myself worrying about my children.

Another saying of hers was, “Keep the crown on your husband’s head.” She lived this advice beautifully, showing her love for my father through her unwavering support and encouragement. After my first marriage ended, I changed the wording of her wisdom to: “Keep the crown on the father of your children’s head.” Even years later, I am grateful for my mother’s voice echoing in my mind, guiding me to act with love, respect, and understanding.

Living a legacy of kindness

Hearing positive words about our impact on others, especially on a milestone like an 80th birthday, is truly heartwarming. It reminds us to reflect on our own lives from this perspective. Living fully aware that our daily actions touch others, can inspire us to live more fearlessly.

It is not the significant accomplishments that leave the most profound impact. What truly matters is how we made people feel—how we were present for them, offering a listening ear or a word of loving encouragement when they needed it most. That is the legacy that endures.

Regards

Emsia

Benefits of hobbies and personal projects

Benefits of hobbies and personal projects

Comments 0 Comment

The long, cold winter months have encouraged us to pursue hobbies and personal projects. These activities offer an excellent escape when work pressures or the monotony of daily routines become overwhelming.

In South Africa, Charl always had a house or garden renovation project that filled the weekends with positive energy. Now, in Switzerland, where physical space is limited, he has turned to Lego. His office is already filled with various building projects, sparking interesting conversations.

What is a personal project?

A personal project focuses on satisfying your curiosity and deepening your understanding of a topic rather than solely on the final output. They emphasise exploration and enjoyment rather than the pursuit of fame. This approach allows experimentation, creativity, and growth without the pressure to impress anyone.

A personal project can be anything that allows you to express your ideas or interests, and the time it takes can vary greatly depending on the project. Some projects may even span several years!

Zander’s Grade 10 personal project

At Zander’s school, students had to complete a personal project in their Grade 10 year. They could choose any topic that aligned with their interests. The goal was to learn more about a subject that intrigued them. They had to deliver a product that demonstrated their newfound knowledge. Students had to maintain a detailed journal of their planning and progress. A report at the end of the project had to serve as a basis for their assessment.

Zander created a braille keyboard to enable blind individuals to use computers. He had to learn about braille and how to design the keyboard buttons on a software application before printing them on a 3D printer at school. This project expanded his technical skills and taught him the importance of project planning and the value of input from others.

There were challenges along the way, but the satisfaction on his face when he finally demonstrated the working keyboard made all the time and effort worthwhile.

My projects

My mom used to make our clothes and passed on some of her sewing skills to me as a young girl. I still remember my frustration and occasional outbursts when she made me unstitch incorrect seams. There was a valuable life lesson in that experience: the sooner you fix a mistake or solve a problem, the less impact it will have.

My projects often included designing and producing clothes during school and university vacations. I tackled making prince and soldier outfits for my young sons’ Cinderella school performance. It required long nights and hard work, especially when I had to unstitch many seams. Despite the challenges, it was immensely satisfying to create something from scratch.

Here in Switzerland, I started writing as a form of therapy. My first personal project was collecting my writings about our experiences in Switzerland into a blog. I had to learn a lot about the technology and processes. The project still brings me joy and is a valuable platform to stay in touch with friends and family.

It also allows me to pursue my passion for photography. After five years, I published my writings in an e-book with photos on Amazon. This initiative has brought new challenges and learning experiences. With personal projects, the true satisfaction lies in the creation process rather than the outcome.

Family members’ projects

My dad had a passion for cars and mechanics. He once bought an old car and renovated it mechanically and visually. My sister and I often helped with his projects, enjoying the progress as it unfolded. As toddlers, he built us a swing as one of his projects, which still stands in my mom’s garden. Although he died before meeting his grandchildren, they could enjoy the benefits of his handiwork.

My son Christo made garden furniture from wooden pallets while still in school. His technical drawing class helped him in the process. For his 18th birthday celebration, he arranged the furniture in our garden, and the lights strung in the trees created a festive atmosphere.

As a student, my son Jacques helped entrepreneurs with their marketing by taking photos and creating social media videos. He made good friends and learned a lot in the process. His skills became valuable when he started his business, a bakery with the name The Cinnamon Club.

Benefits of hobbies and personal projects

I have benefited from taking on hobbies and personal projects. I have learned new things and discovered more about myself. It provided a meaningful focus that enhanced my mental well-being during the European winter months. Often, the skills I gained became valuable in future situations. I have made new friends by connecting with others sharing similar interests and passions.

Completing a project, especially where I stretch myself or collaborate with others, brings immense satisfaction and boosts my confidence. The sense of achievement when I reach my desired outcome is rewarding.

I would love to hear about any hobbies or projects that have brought you joy and fulfilment.

Regards

Emsia

Istanbul is full of colour and spice

Istanbul is full of colour and spice

We welcomed the new year in Istanbul and explored one of the world’s most popular tourist destinations. It is the only city that spans two continents, with a long bridge connecting its European and Asian sides. Thanks to its strategic location, Istanbul has long served as a hub for regional trade routes. We had the opportunity to experience its unique blend of Eastern and Western cultures.

Turkish Food and drink

The prospect of Istanbul’s cuisine excited Zander. In Switzerland, the Turkish döner kebab is our favourite street food. Turkish immigrants caused döner kebabs to gain popularity in Germany during the 1970s. Inexpensive, tasty, and filling, they quickly became a favourite meal for workers, students, and late-night revellers.

One of the most popular drinks to accompany street food is Ayran, a salty, light, and frothy yoghurt drink. Ayran quenches thirst and replenishes the salt lost through sweating in the hot Turkish summers.

We treated ourselves daily to Turkish tea and sometimes enjoyed a sweet treat like Baklava. Baklava consists of layers of filo dough, filled with chopped nuts and sweetened with syrup or honey.

We also tried Salep, a beloved winter drink in Turkey. A differentiating ingredient in this warm and sweet beverage is the powdered roots of various orchid species. People from the Ottoman Empire introduced Salep to Istanbul. People valued warm and sweet Salep as a comfort drink and an aphrodisiac. We loved Salep which reminded us of milk tart filling spiced with cinnamon.

They also use Salep powder in Turkish ice cream. It gives the ice cream a firm texture and makes it resistant to melting. This is a useful feature in the scorching summer heat.

Bazaars

The Grand Bazaar in Istanbul is one of the world’s largest and oldest covered markets. They began construction in 1461 and the purpose of the bazaar was to organise and regulate the city’s trade activities. People often consider it one of the first shopping malls in the world. Today, the bazaar features 61 covered streets and over 4,000 shops offering various local products. Haggling for better prices is an essential part of the experience, and Zander skillfully negotiated to buy accessories requested by his friends at great prices.

The Egyptian, or Spice Bazaar, is a historic indoor market established in the 17th century. It is renowned for its extensive selection of herbs and spices. We enjoyed sampling a variety of delicacies in this vibrant and aromatic market.

Locals shop for household items at various street markets, where all produce is seasonal and mainly grown in Turkey.

Landmarks representing Four Empires

Istanbul boasts a rich history, having served as the capital of four empires: the Roman Empire (330-395), the Byzantine Empire (395-1204), the Latin Empire (1204-1261), the Byzantine Empire again (1261-1453), and the Ottoman Empire (1453-1922). We explored several landmarks and experienced the unique blend of Christian and Islamic sites.

Blue Mosque

The Blue Mosque, a prime example of Ottoman architecture, is an active place of worship open to all visitors, provided they wear appropriate clothing. Blue Iznik tiles featuring intricate floral patterns, geometric designs, and calligraphy adorn the interior walls.

Hagia Sophia

Hagia Sophia, meaning “Holy Wisdom” in Greek, is one of Istanbul’s most sacred and breathtaking landmarks. Built in 537 AD, it has a history spanning over 1,400 years and has served as a centre of religious, artistic, and political significance. It attracts countless visitors annually and people often call it the “Eighth Wonder of the World.”

Hagia Sophia was originally a church, later a mosque, and now a museum. Its stunning architecture reflects the influence of both Byzantine and Ottoman design.

Our accommodation was next to a mosque, and the call to prayer broadcast over the loudspeakers reminded us of regular daily prayers. Being so close to the conflicts in Istanbul’s neighbouring countries heightened my awareness of the need to pray for peace in the world.

Basilica Cistern

Beneath the bustling streets of Istanbul lies the Basilica Cistern, a 6th-century marvel that once stored water for the city. The 336 columns, some adorned with haunting Medusa heads, support the ancient underground reservoir.

Notable films such as Inferno and From Russia with Love have used the cistern’s eerie atmosphere as a dramatic backdrop, enhancing its allure and cultural significance.

Pedestrianised Istiklal Caddesi

Istiklal Street, the city’s most famous thoroughfare, is a vibrant entertainment centre. This pedestrian street buzzes with activity and is filled with shops, restaurants, cafes, and street performers. We visited just before New Year’s and saw Istiklal Caddesi beautifully decorated with festive lights.

Balat

Historically, Balat has been a haven for minorities in the city, particularly Jewish and Greek Orthodox families. We will remember Balat for its colourful houses lining the sloping cobbled streets.

Many of these homes are over 50 years old, with some dating back up to 200 years. The cafés and restaurants are picturesque, and the food offerings reflect the district’s diversity.

Our pictures share more about our visit.

Our visit to Istanbul was a positive experience and we returned with colourful memories. Travel is a gift that keeps on giving.

Regards

Emsia

Travel is a gift that keeps on giving

Travel is a gift that keeps on giving

In December, we received a wonderful gift from our family. Andre and my sister Ansa empowered their children, Marga and Altus, to visit us in Zurich. They aimed to broaden the children’s horizons and enrich their experiences. It was a privilege to share our world with them and a joy to celebrate Christmas as a family.

Marga and Altus’s visit was full of firsts. It was their first time flying, their first trip outside South Africa, and their first experience with snow. The snowfall was a delightful blessing, and we all enjoyed it together. The long nights, cold days, and living where people speak different languages were entirely new experiences for them. In short, their visit was an extraordinary adventure.

Afterwards, I asked them a few questions to understand how this trip affected their outlook and future aspirations. I share their feedback in this letter.

What were the highlight experiences that became part of your memories?

Marga – The snow was magical and truly the highlight of my experience. I had always dreamed of a snowy adventure, but nothing compares to witnessing it in person. Walking around Zurich and exploring the French side were eye-opening experiences for me. I loved the charming shops, the delicious food aromas, and the stunning lights that elevated the atmosphere.

My passion for tourism shone through during my visit to the Dolder Grand Hotel. This picturesque place inspired me to pursue my tourism studies with renewed enthusiasm. I can genuinely envision myself working at the Dolder Grand Hotel one day.

Altus – The snow was an incredible experience and the highlight of my travel holiday.

Would you like to travel to other countries, and why?

Marga – If given the opportunity, I would love to travel to more countries. I am passionate about exploring different cultures and discovering new ways of doing things. I am particularly interested in how hotels operate and deeply appreciate their beauty, elegance, and uniqueness.

Altus – Experiencing other cultures was very special, and I would love to do it again.

Which countries are on your travel wish list, and what interests you about them?

Altus – I would love to visit Paris in France, Mauritius, America, Sweden, and Tokyo. In Paris, I want to see and experience the Eiffel Tower. Mauritius attracts me with its beautiful sea and fascinating culture. America’s culture feels familiar. It is similar to South Africa’s, and even though we often see it on television, I want to experience it in person. Sweden has been on my wish list since childhood. Tokyo is famous for its cars, unique foods, and culture, and since I love cars, that would be the focus of my trip!

Marga – I am captivated by the fashion scene and the blend of historical and modern architecture in Milan, Italy, and I want to experience it firsthand. I have a deep appreciation for French culture and would love to immerse myself in it while in France. Tulips are my favourite flowers; just seeing a bunch of them in a store brings me joy. Therefore, I would love to visit the Netherlands to witness the fields filled with tulips and other vibrant flowers.

If you had to move to Switzerland like us, what would you enjoy about the experience, and what would you find challenging?

Altus – I love milk and cheese and would easily adapt to Swiss food culture. However, my biggest challenge would be leaving my family behind, as they always come first.

Marga – I would enjoy the freedom of using public transport to explore new places. I would also love to discover new things in my new hometown, such as the dairy near my aunt’s house, where you can bottle fresh milk. I would be charmed by the beautiful forests and friendly farmers in the area.

The most challenging part would be being far away from my family. It would also be tough not being able to speak my native language. I love engaging with people and making small talk but doing that in English or other languages would be difficult. Additionally, adjusting to the incredibly high cost of living would be challenging, especially since South Africa is still affordable in many ways, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.

In what ways did the Swiss visit make you appreciate South Africa more?

Marga – Although the snow was beautiful, I missed the Kalahari sunsets terribly. I also felt a deep longing for my family and friends, which gave me a newfound respect for those who moved abroad.

While we were in Switzerland, the farmers in the Kalahari were facing a severe drought. In the last week of our visit, it finally started to rain in the Kalahari, and I could not wait to see the green grass and the more optimistic farmers.

Altus – I missed my biltong, droëwors, and, most importantly, braaivleis. I have gained a deeper appreciation for my culture and the people who speak and understand my language. The most precious aspect of all is the Kalahari sunset, with the distant howl of a jackal in the background.

I share more about our experiences in the video below.

Our time together was special and strengthened our family bonds. We created many moments that will become stories to share in the future, whether around a braai or over a pot of cheese fondue. I wonder how Zander would answer these questions if he spent two weeks in the Kalahari over Christmas.

Regards,

Emsia

Anticipation brings mixed emotions

Anticipation brings mixed emotions

Anticipation is a familiar feeling that often visits us. Waiting for something exciting, like a holiday, a visit from someone, or a celebration, makes me tingle with delight. I find the anticipation sometimes as fun as the event itself!

Anticipation for a travel experience with my mom

A memorable moment of anticipation was when we took my mom to see the tulips at Keukenhof in Amsterdam in 2016. It was her first time travelling overseas, and the excitement was palpable.

During our trip, my sister, Ansa, stayed at our home in Cape Town to look after the children. The nieces and nephews enjoyed two weeks of fun and togetherness while we were away. They were excited about our return and greeted us warmly and enthusiastically. The exchange of stories and experiences we shared upon returning was just as enjoyable as the trip.

For me, the most enjoyable part of anticipating a positive experience is the planning and preparation. I can spend hours researching, making lists, and organizing everything. As the day of the experience approaches, both my excitement and anxiety grow. Three months before our journey, my mother travelled 1,000 kilometres by bus to visit us so we could assist her with her visa application. We considered this part of the shared adventure.

It was all worth it, and we often during our regular calls reminisce about the beautiful, colourful moments we experienced.

The anticipation for the 2024 Olympic Games in Paris

We visited Paris in May this year, and the construction and scaffolding throughout the city indicated preparations for the Olympic Games. We could feel the anticipation building for this significant event. At that time, Paris was in the final phase of preparations for the 2024 Olympic Games. A countdown board displayed how many days remained, much like an advent calendar leading up to Christmas.

As a tourist, I shared the excitement with others about this grand event, which involved 10,500 participants and organisers who had worked incredibly hard. I felt compassion for the organisers and project managers, imagining the immense pressure they faced under the world’s watchful eyes to complete everything on time.

Paris hosted the Olympic Games twice before. The 1900 Olympics were significant as they were the first held outside Greece and marked the first participation of women. The 1924 Olympics in Paris saw a notable increase in the size and scope of the Games, with standardised rules and extensive media coverage worldwide.

The 2024 Olympic Games were a tremendous success. People remember it for many reasons. It was the first to achieve gender equality in participation. An equal number of female and male athletes participated in the world’s largest sporting event. I believe the organisers look back on their hard work with great satisfaction.

We anticipate a visit from the Kalahari

This year brings great excitement for my sister Ansa’s children. We agreed the time had arrived for Marga, a second-year student, and Altus, a tenth-grader, to visit us in Switzerland in December.

A significant amount of preparation and uncertainty is associated with this visit. Marga and Altus had to obtain passports as a first step. South Africa has many immigration requirements regarding the travel of minor children, such as Altus. The Van Zyl family had to drive 700 kilometres to Pretoria for the Schengen visa application, bringing a thick pack of forms and certified copies of critical documentation. Their appointment was early morning, which required them to overnight in Pretoria. They will repeat this journey to Johannesburg’s OR Tambo International Airport on December 9 for their Emirates flight.

There are many firsts associated with this visit for them. This visit will be their first flight experience, their first time outside the borders of South Africa, their first winter Christmas, and hopefully, their first snow experience. Additionally, they live in the Kalahari, where summer temperatures can easily exceed 40 degrees Celsius, and the winter is short. The frigid European winter weather and long cold days in a country where people speak a foreign language will undoubtedly be a new experience for them.

Meanwhile, we here in Switzerland are bubbling over with excitement. We regularly discuss everything we want to show them and the experiences we wish to share. The anticipation is immense, and we count the days until their arrival.

Anticipation poem

The beautiful poem by Patience Strong entitled Anticipation describes it so well.

Kind regards

Emsia

Sport teaches skills and life lessons

Sport teaches skills and life lessons

Sports have always brought me immense pleasure and joy. Through them, I have honed new skills and gained valuable insights. However, upon becoming a mom, my role shifted from an active participant to a dedicated spectator. Despite this change, the emotional rollercoaster of highs and lows remains just as intense.

Different sports for different people

We have always encouraged our children to participate in at least one sport. Learning to play by the rules of a game is a skill that can be applied to many areas of life.

Switzerland’s school sports landscape differs from that of South Africa. As a novice, Zander did not possess the same level of proficiency in football as his peers. They had been playing football since childhood. While his ball skills were adept as a goalkeeper, the situation affected his self-esteem. Fortunately, volleyball presented itself as a viable alternative. It suited Zander very well. He joined a volleyball club in Zurich. It allowed him to excel in the sport and aided him in learning Swiss German.

Our eldest, Jacques, found his passion for cricket in primary school. Christo’s passion for technology far outweighed his interest in sports. On the rugby field, he was the one doing cartwheels. However, when we suggested hockey, he fortunately found his passion and motivation in the spirit of fun and teamwork.

Sport teaches skills and life lessons

One does not immediately discover the ideal space where you can become the best version of yourself. We encounter opportunities that align with our strengths and passions by searching and making efforts. Sport teaches us the value of refining a skill. It enhances our efficacy as athletes and brings true fulfilment through continuous improvement.

Time and energy management

Engaging in sports is an effective method for learning about managing time and energy. It demands a substantial investment of time and energy to achieve proficiency. It requires commitment and effective prioritisation. Carving out time for exercise entails sacrificing moments of leisure. It teaches us to discern what is essential and what we should let go.

Teamwork

In team sports, different positions require distinct skill sets. Players learn to capitalise on each other’s strengths and cover for weaknesses. The team’s success hinges on its least skilled player, underscoring the importance of mutual assistance, support, and encouragement. Each member bears responsibility for the group, maintaining their fitness, refining their skills, and striving for peak performance for the collective benefit. Beyond sports, we all belong to various teams in our lives, whether at home, school, work, church or within our communities.

Risks and Opportunities

Succeeding in sports and life requires a player to discern opportunities and take calculated risks. While victories are part of the journey, occasional setbacks are inevitable. It is crucial to embrace success with humility and navigate defeat with dignity. Learning to avoid being paralysed by failure is integral to personal growth.

Setbacks

Injuries and mistakes are inherent in both sports and the game of life. It affects our self-confidence and mental well-being. Recovering from setbacks is a time-consuming process. During such challenging times, self-care and the support of family and friends are important. Granting ourselves the required time for recovery is essential to help us return to the playing field with renewed strength, passion, and enthusiasm.

Balanced lifestyle

Success in athletics depends on maintaining a balanced lifestyle. It involves staying dedicated during training and competitions while having a life outside of sports. Cultivating a personal life is vital for preventing the loss of joy in sports and the game of life.

Time on the field is limited

Time on the field is limited. Before you know it, your role shifts from actively playing to mentoring and guiding from the sidelines. From there, you offer advice, support, and encouragement.

As a parent on the sidelines, we must remember that children learn best through active engagement in sports and life. Letting go is, therefore, a crucial aspect of parenting. Our children need the freedom to discover what they enjoy, what strategies work best for them, and how to learn from their mistakes.

Regards

Emsia 

Munich – much more than Oktoberfest

Munich – much more than Oktoberfest

Since my birthday is in October, I get to choose our fall getaway destination each year. I usually pick countries east of Switzerland because the autumn colours are stunning. In the past, I’ve chosen Budapest in Hungary and Tyrol in Austria, and this year, I’ve set my sights on Munich, Germany.

Munich, the capital of Bavaria, is famous for its exceptional beer. While many people know it as the home of Oktoberfest, the world’s largest beer festival, our visit was just after the festivities. We quickly discovered that Munich offers much more than beer and celebrations. The city has beautiful parks, a rich history, and engaging experiences.

Hometown of BMW

Munich is the hometown of my favourite car brand, BMW. It stands for Bavarian Motor Works. During our visit, we delved into BMW’s history and saw how it evolved from its humble beginnings into the automotive giant.

The impressive architecture of the BMW Welt buildings reflects the brand’s innovation and elegance. Inside, we explored various areas, including the reception facilities and the space where they hand over the keys of brand-new vehicles to their excited owners.

My dad was passionate about mechanical engineering and joined me when I test-drove my first BMW. I wish I could share this BMW experience in Munich with him. It would have meant so much to both of us!

Science and Technology Museum

Germany has long been a hub of scientific brilliance, producing some of the most influential minds in physics, mathematics, chemistry, and engineering. So, visiting the iconic Deutsches Museum felt like a perfect choice. It is one of the largest museums in the world, dedicated to technology and science.

The variety of exhibits was truly staggering. Friends had advised us to focus on a few themes since the museum is far too big to explore everything in one day. We decided to concentrate on Optics, Electronics, and Mathematics. Later, we also checked out the model train and bridge-building exhibitions.

The exhibits are interactive, inviting visitors to engage and explore with their senses. With its vast layout, the museum is enormous, and it is easy to lose track of time in its seemingly endless corridors!

German Culture and the Old Town

Marienplatz has been the heart of Munich for centuries. Once, it was bustling with merchants selling eggs, flour, wine, and fish. Today, it’s a vibrant gathering place for locals and tourists, especially during events like the Christmas market, which fills the square with festive cheer every winter.

Glockenspiel

Dominating the northern side of the square is the New City Hall, known for its impressive Gothic architecture. The main attraction here is the historic chime that rings twice a day. With 43 bells, it’s one of the largest in Europe. As the clock chimes, delightful figurines come to life, reenacting scenes from Munich’s vibrant history.

Viktualienmarkt

We also visited Viktualienmarkt, which started as a farmer’s market. Today, it boasts around 100 stalls selling everything from fresh fruits and vegetables to fish, meat, bread, spices, and lovely gifts and souvenirs.

People gather to chat and watch the bustling activity in the large beer garden. In Switzerland and Germany, it is legal to drink beer from the age of 16, and they serve it in pints. We embraced true German tradition with a beer and a Bratwurst topped with sauerkraut.

Bavarian Spirit at Hofbräuhaus

For my birthday, I wanted to experience authentic Bavarian food and spirit. Our initial plan was to visit the legendary Hofbräuhaus. The atmosphere was festive and inviting, but it was so crowded that we decided to find a smaller, less touristy spot.

The German music and the decor created a warm and inviting atmosphere, perfect for enjoying traditional German dishes. We sat back and watched as they brought new beer kegs to refill glasses, immersing ourselves in the experience!

Nymphenburg Palace

Nymphenburg Palace served as the summer residence for Bavarian rulers during the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries. I especially loved the palace gardens, beautifully adorned in autumn colours. They were well-maintained and provided a stunning backdrop for wedding photos.

Munich: The River Surfing Capital of the World

We also discovered that Munich is home to the ultimate urban surf spot. The Eisbach River has a two-kilometre stretch of waves attracting surfers from around the globe. Eisbach means ice creek and is quite fitting. Locals and tourists gather to watch daring surfers navigate the river’s rising tides.

With its rich culture, fascinating history, and hearty food, Munich makes for an excellent autumn weekend getaway!

Kind regards

Emsia

African Art is functional and social

African Art is functional and social

Every time Zander and I land at Cape Town airport, he turns to me with a smile and says, “Mom, I love the happy vibe I hear and feel.” There’s an energy in the air. People laugh, chat, and call out to each other from across the room, effortlessly bridging the distance with their voices. It’s a world away from the quiet of Switzerland where silence is respected, even legally enforced. So, after touching down, we always grab a coffee and take a moment to soak in the lively atmosphere and tap into the city’s heartbeat.

Though my ancestors likely lived in Europe centuries ago, I feel African blood running through my veins. In the past six months, I have attended two art exhibitions focused on Africa, both at the invitation of my German friends. The artwork’s vibrant colours, joyful energy, and authenticity deeply resonated with me, stirring a longing for South Africa.

Esther Mahlangu                                     

The first exhibition I attended was of Esther Mahlangu’s work at the Iziko Museum in Cape Town with my friend Ulrike in June 2024. Mahlangu, a legendary South African visual artist, is renowned for her vibrant murals featuring traditional Ndebele patterns. This exhibition celebrated her nearly seven-decade-long contribution to contemporary art, showcasing over 100 carefully curated pieces from prestigious international collections.

In Southern Ndebele culture, it is a tradition for women to paint the exteriors of their homes with these intricate patterns, a skill Esther learned at the age of ten from her mother and grandmother. In 2018, at 83 years old, Dr Mahlangu was honoured with two honorary doctorates to recognise her immense contribution to the art world.

Collaboration with major brands

Her groundbreaking work has led to iconic global collaborations with brands and names such as Rolls-Royce, BMW, Fiat, South African Airways, John Legend, Belvedere Vodka, The Smithsonian Museum, Freshpak Rooibos, and many more. She said,

Through my art, I have seen the world. In turn, the world learned about my Ndebele heritage.  I speak isiNdebele, I walk isiNdebele, and I wear isiNdebele.

Esther Mahlangu rose to international fame through an iconic BMW advertising campaign. I had the privilege of seeing the legendary BMW 525i Art Car, which returned to South Africa for the first time in over 30 years.

She was also the first artist in the world commissioned to create an artwork for the exclusive “gallery” of a new Rolls-Royce Phantom, which was fittingly named ‘The Mahlangu’ in her honour.

African Art in Basel, Switzerland

My German friend Darja invited me to an African art exhibition in Basel. The theme was “When We See Us.” It was significant to learn that the Zeitz MOCAA Museum of Contemporary Art Africa in Cape Town had curated and organised the exhibition, as I worked right across from that impressive museum.

The artwork was grouped by themes, each accompanied by a description. Themes, such as Everyday Life, Joy, and Spirituality, resonated deeply, reflecting my experiences with African cultures. The exhibition also powerfully captured the conflict between the world’s expectations of Africa and the vision that Africa aspires to be.

Everyday life

Beauty is woven into our daily lives. We often discover it in games, meaningful work, or during moments of rest. Artists remind us that home isn’t just a place; it’s a feeling rooted in the warmth of community. We find this warmth in the laughter in backyards, conversations on the front porch, tending to gardens, and gathering around dinner tables. Here, elders impart their wisdom, and we experience family love, whether blood-related or not. Everyone becomes an Aunt or Uncle.

While we may have few material possessions, we are rich in togetherness. We find joy in the simple rhythms of carrying water, reading, running, knitting, enjoying a beer, or braiding hair. Together, we celebrate the richness of life and cherish the simple pleasure of just being.

Spirituality

Our spirituality is an integral part of our everyday lives, woven into the fabric of who we are. It is rich and complex, guiding us in understanding the universe and improving our lives. We take pride in our triple heritage of indigenous cultures, Christianity, and Islam.

Our spirituality provides a space for rituals, ceremonies, and storytelling. Through ritual dance, we transcend the present while the sacred texts and prayers from various traditions cleanse and renew our spirits. We discover peace and meaning in this blend of ancient wisdom and modern faith.

Joy

Life is all about savouring every moment, and we know how to throw a celebration. Whether at a friend’s gathering or during a lively street festival, we embrace the warmth of joy. We have a knack for turning any moment into a celebration, believing occasions deserve song and dance.

We possess the voices and the movements to bring our celebrations to life. While we thrive on the energy of coming together, we also value the quiet moments of rest and solitude. We savour life in all its rhythms.

My love for Africa and its people

I am grateful to my German friends for enjoying African art with me. The exhibitions reflected and reaffirmed my deep love for Africa and its people, who truly master the art of living in the moment.

Regards

Emsia