There are many instances when we hear things, meet people, or have experienced them when we need them most. We know that it is not accidental but more a case of synchronicity. The psychotherapist Jung created the term synchronicity (syn = with, Chronos = time). It describes events or coincidences that seem to have no specific cause but are very significant.

I see it as a way of God talking to me or giving me the answers I need. When I am in despair or doubt about the right step or decision, I walk into a bookstore with a prayer. “Oh Lord, please give me a sign or an answer”. Soon a book will catch my eye and usually have the answer I need.

It also often happens to me that I think about someone incessantly or need to say something to someone, even if it feels a bit uncomfortable. The result is usually the person who confirms that my words or support made a difference. The reverse happens too. People will call out of the blue or show up with just the answer, help or advice.

Charl’s path crossed mine in a synchronistic way

Charl’s path crossed mine in a synchronistic way. After my divorce, I allowed myself one year to be in the doldrums and worked through it. At the end of that year, I went on holiday with my mom and the boys to Sedgefield. On the last day of our holiday, I went canoeing on the lake and prayed aloud. I explained to God that I was ready to move on. I kindly asked him to send me someone who loves Him, loves me, but will also love my children.

On Sunday evening, after we arrived home in April 2006, Charl called me to ask if I would go to the musical Mamma Mia with him. He bought the tickets before his divorce and did not want to let them go wasted. He told me afterwards that he postponed that call a few times. One thing led to another, and we married one year later, in April 2007. I know God answered my prayer and that his call was not coincidental.

The number 11:11

For the last two years, I have noticed the number 11 everywhere. It happened numerous times that I looked at my watch at 11:11. I was curious and tried to find out if there was any meaning to it. According to my research, the number 11 is the master number and is the way of the Universe or God, making us aware to read between the lines and notice that there is more to our current situation than we are aware.

11 October 2019 was the last school day for Christo. It was only the final school exam standing between him and his future. In my mind, I was with him all morning, attending the last hall meeting and listening to the school principal’s speech. In addition, there were a few uncertain situations for which I could not see or control the outcome. I felt heavy with emotion. When I got up from behind my computer for a cup of tea, I quickly looked at my cell phone and became aware of the time and date – 11 October 11:11.

Ladybugs

After my tea, I cleaned the house and opened the windows. As I entered the living room, I noticed all the ladybugs. There were almost fifty of these beautiful little insects. As children, we believe they bring happiness when they sit on us. Their presence was comforting.

Early the following morning, I went for a walk at the lake. By the water, the most beautiful white swan swam against the orange background of sunrise. I experienced peace. Three signs that I can believe, trust and be calm. I know that when my mom sees a feather on the ground at her back door, that is her sign of hope.

Career

As far as my career is concerned, I have always had the vision to exchange my permanent role in a corporate environment for a self-employed business consulting role to focus on the things that I am passionate about and have more freedom. The ideal time for me would be around forty-eight because it would be enough time to get a business going before the risk aversion that comes with age kicks in too badly.

However, I was afraid to exchange a good monthly salary for a start-from-scratch self-owned business. Due to a restructuring at work, my employer terminated my position during the same October as my 48th birthday. Exciting coaching and consulting opportunities came my way from the strangest places, and I enjoyed every moment of my new role.

Before I turned fifty, a strange twist in my career plans caught me a little off guard. Since I knew Charl, Switzerland has been one of his favourite places. The natural beauty, technological advancement, precision, and food contribute to his love of Switzerland. Although I enjoy the adventure and the learning and growth that such a change brings, I am still uncertain how it fits into my life plan.

However, I know that now I am still staring at a dim mirror and that I will receive the necessary answers and perspective as the story unfolds. I am looking forward to it!

Kind regards
Emsia